Advise on dating a minister!?

I am very confused! My family for many years had told me I was looking for love in all the wrong places. I have been married and divorced. I am a single mom and have been single for a long time. About 8 months ago I started going to a church in our town. Soon after became a member. Recently there has been a line of communication started between the Minister (who is also divorced, no kids of his own, and around the same age....late 40's to 50) and I that could very well turn into dating. But after reading all that is on the internet about this subject, I am worried. Out side of church we would be a perfect couple.....but because I came to this church and then we found each other later it would be wrong to date. It says on somethings that Ministers should not find a partner within the church. I feel that the honor of being able to support a man in such a noble profession outweighs the negatives. You get to be their partner in ministry and see them be such a blessing to others by putting GOD first. This gets more complicated with the fact that I have 2 children of my own who love him very much. I may be wrong but I feel if dating is done in a Christian manner, Discreet, tasteful.( which you would do around your children anyway!) Than it should be welcome in the church. It is misbehavior that would and could be taken very wrong. God encourages man and woman to be together......but keep it ethical! Also I do not feel that being totally secretive is good either. In a small town people will see you and know you anyway. And I'm sure being a minister at least your Deacons should know your intentions. No one can make everyone happy! But if you stay within the Christian Manner and ethical Boundaries......should Christian relationships be encouraged not discouraged.